Foremost Nigeria actress Rachael Oniga,has advised young girls to fight for their marriage despite challenges.
The actress regrets, her decision not to remarry after a failed marriage and love for her children.
Rachael Oniga separated from her husband in her youth which meant that she would embark on a lonesome journey as a single mother – a decision she wished she never made.
In an interview with Punch, she regretted that she didn’t fight for her marriage despite his husband’s plea for forgiveness before his death.
She said, By remarrying, she risked exposing her offspring to ill-treatment from a prospective suitor. This would have defeated the idea that inspired her move away from her ex-husband who reportedly wedded another woman following their union.
Oniga advice young women to follow a route different from hers when confronting marital issues. Unlike her, she prefers that they fight for the existence of their matrimony.
When ask as single mother with three children, how did you manage to build your acting career.
‘My first born, Olamide, was four years old when I left my marriage.
I had to put them all in boarding schools. That is one of the most painful things I have had to do. Whenever I talk about this, it always brings me close to tears.
My children paid the price for something they knew nothing about. Children don’t beg parents to have them; we ask them to come to the world, so we should be able to take good care of them. It is not all about money, but I had no choice. I had to work; I had to be a mother and a father to them. I had to make sure that they had all they needed to have.
While they were in school, they didn’t lack anything. I got them all the things rich children had. I understand all I did was not enough, but I thank God for the children He blessed me with. I think God knew I had nobody but Him. In a way, he saw us through and I thank Him for that.
“The factor (her late husband married another woman) that led to the end of my marriage made me determined to prove to him (ex-husband) that I could stand without any man.
She said, “I understand where you are going, but sometimes when a woman closes her heart, she will not give any relationship a chance. I was always on the defensive. I didn’t want any man to treat my children badly. I was working for my money and I put my kids in good schools. So, what do I need a man for?
“I felt all men just wanted was to see the beauty of a woman and walk away. With what my ex-husband did to me, you expect me to trust men again? Before we got separated, he was a good and ideal man.
But he married another woman and I moved on. I do not regret leaving him because I sacrificed my life for my children, which makes me fulfilled and happy. But I miss the whole union thing, friendship and sharing things together. I have missed it all.
“My advice to young ladies is to keep and fight for their marriages. Perhaps, I was naïve; I never fought for what was mine, but I still thank God.
We are in Africa, you fight for your life and that of your children first. Maybe that is why God has been merciful to me and my children,” she stated.
I was not ready to give any other man the chance to be a hindrance to my children and me. I also made up my mind that I would dedicate my life totally to my children. I toughened my heart and blocked every opportunity to go into any relationship. I saw myself as equal to any man, regardless of how much money he might have. I give God the glory because I can pay my bills. I dedicated all my life to my job and my children. I became so busy and I was not ready to take any nonsense from men.
When ask Why didn’t you fight for your marriage when you had the chance?
It was my mistake. I should have fought for it. Any young lady must try her best and fight for her marriage. My decision at that time might not have been the best, but I still thank God. I have my regrets too as a human being.